There are so many things going on right now, it's difficult to cover them all. I'm a passionate person, and there are things that i'm passionate about. I am very involved in Hip-Hop Stand Up/Justice For Mario Woods, I am the founder of StopLoss22, a foundation whose focus is veteran suicide and helping those at-risk. I am taking on some new projects as well, expanding my company and my resume. But all of that falls to the rear at times, when i'm dealing with personal issues/demons.
I'm only human, after all.
I was reading on someone's facebook this evening, and I saw a post he wrote about abuse. It was well-written and he made some very valid and serious points about women being abused. I feel it's important to state, that MEN can get abused as well. Sometimes it's mental/psychological, sometimes, emotional. You know what the worst part is? Men (typically) have no one to turn to. No one they can talk to. What do we do as men, to eachother? "Suck it up, pussy!" "Dude! You're so much bigger than she is!" "Ain't no woman putting her hands on ME!" "What the fuck is wrong with you? LEAVE!!" .....we essentially make it our bro's own fault he's in that situation.
Shame on every last one of us.
It's not easy to admit that you're being controlled, manipulated and emotionally abused. I constantly give the advice that "People will do PRECISELY what you allow them to do"...but find it difficult to follow my OWN advice there. Love is an awesome thing. Love is a terrible curse. Love is an emotionally violent weapon, in the wrong hands. "I love you" can be the most beautiful thing anyone has ever been told.
"I love you" is the most terrible lie that can be told.
What of the man whose woman says the ultimate, "I hate you! You make me SICK!" "I can't stand to even be around you!!" ....until they need something, or until you say "fuck it" and walk away, and then all of a sudden the tune changes. "Please don't go! I can't make it without you! I know I was wrong! I'm sorry! I'll change!!!" ...........and we come back home, because we believe that THIS time, it will REALLY change!! And it does...for about a week. Before you know it, you're right back where you started, and possibly even WORSE. You've proven you aren't going anywhere, and those bonds of manipulation can draw you right back.
Sound familiar? Like every abused wife you've ever seen that left her husband, but believed "I love you/need you, i'll change" and went running back. You see, the emotional abuse is just as effective. Women (typically) know that they can't take their man physically, so they strike where they know they CAN.
In the pride. Insulting you, mocking you, disrespecting you, ignoring you....and then acting as if YOU'RE the crazy one.
My point is a very simple one.
Know that your brother can be abused, just as easily as your sister. The scars aren't physical, but the emotional scars of an abused heart, can run deep as well. They sometimes take longer to heal. Be that friend who is THERE for your brother, not the one who alienates him. Lord knows, he ALREADY is being made to feel "less than" a man. He doesn't need your heaping it on.
Peace
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